I do not want to be folded
for where I am folded,
there I am a lie.
–Rilke
If you’re anything like me, you know what it’s like to be plagued by worry. And I ain’t just talkin’ about the “Ew, I’m worried that the milk I just poured over my cereal might have been past its expiration date.” I am talking the kind of worry that wakes you up in the middle of the night and won’t let you go back to sleep. The kind of worry that catapults you twenty years into the future and has you making up stories about what your life will be like if nothing changes. The kind of worry that crushes you like a bug and then mashes you into the carpet. That kind of worry.
Worry like that — sometimes referred to as anxiety — can be debilitating. And it’s because I’ve lived with that kind of paralyzing worry that I am doing the work I do today. Offering women a much-needed assist in getting themselves out of the chronic patterns that keep them in the worry-loop. Now, to paraphrase what they say in the “Big Book,” the first step is admitting you have a problem and that you’ve been rendered powerless over your condition. Admitting that I had lost control over my worried mind was the essential first step in my salvation. Once my worrying was labeled anxiety, I was all like, “Okay, fine…now let’s set about fixing this!”
“Have you thought about medication?” my therapist asked. “There are a lot of highly effective treatments out there,” she said, staring down at her notebook. “Sometimes they are good to just…take the edge off.”
“I am not there yet,” I quickly answered. I was not going to go on medication. I was going to use my training as coach and as a spiritual seeker to work on this from the inside out.
That being said, I am all for Western medicine. Sometimes we simply have to combine traditional therapies, treatments, interventions, and medical care with shifts in perspective in order to truly heal. And this is the founding premise of my coaching practice.
We are living with a baseline condition. Worry, depression, disordered eating, cancer, traumatic brain injury, you name it. We may need medical intervention. But at some point we have to pick up the baton and run the leg of the healing race we are responsible for.
The way you think about and engage with your condition has a direct impact on how you feel about it and how profoundly you feel relief.
Guilt, shame, anger, regret…these are all feelings that accompany illness and perpetuate dis-ease.
Working with me, you’ll learn what I’ve learned through personal practice and intensive training. You can connect with a part of you that wants to come alive.
Unfold. Allow yourself to revel in the fullest expression of your life. Accept who you are. Ask for what you need. Dive in and discover who you are, warts and all. And LOVE IT!
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